Media, News & Education

Social Media or SNS are addictive because they feed us with information.

Humans are born to Crave Knowledge, wisdom and are naturally curious about many things in life.

Why do we log on to social media ? 

To catch up on the latest gossip news of celebrity world ? 

To get the latest update of the stock market ?

To get the latest hideout / place of interest that you can visit in the near future ?

To kill boredom?

You see, humans are born to be actively searching for a news outlet, an educational outlet, an outlet to let them acquire knowledge . 

No matter Good or Bad, Positive or Negative, Truth or Lies. We, as humans just crave information and knowledge.

Why so ?

I believe it is cause as long as we are alive , our brain in running 24/7 and brain consume knowledge as food and thus we just crave news and knowledge.

I believe with the rapid advancement of technology and the rise of social enterprise, we could definitely and with certainty create informative news to feed the mind of all and improve humanity in the process.

Induce Empathy, Understanding, Kindness and love.

100th post

100th Post is to commerate my first LiveStream Lunch Time Chat conducted with the Inspiring Lilian Ong, Founder of Women Of Courage Asia. 

99th Post

 Writing in today on the 5th of April 2022 and Blogger.com reminded me that this will be my 99th post.

Thus before I continue , I will like to dedicate a short statement for my past self :

"Dear Past Me, Thank you for being such enduring , hold such strength to pick yourself up from the countless physical and mental abuse for the past years and am really thankful for you for not ending your life. For if it happens, I will not be here doing the things you once set up to do . "

Things have been looking very great recently , excellent actually. Im finally able to be a lil truly happy and greatful of what I have now. I have my dad, and my close friends who support me mentally and heartly. 

As I am writing this 99th post on blogger.com , it reminds me of the 3am post that i wrote previously in the state of mental breakdown , where i am on the venge of breaking down and ending my life. Now that i think back of it , i realise that all i needed atleast was a vent outlet and blogger.com was the outlet for me. 

Everyone have a different way to vent their worries , stress and more but i guess mine is writing a blog haha.

Nonethless , I really want to thanks my Faith for saving me. My dreams about hanging out with my late mum and the dream I had of a future with less discrimination and more humanity.

For today , I am truly happy on where I am now. I will never give my life up for anything. And if there is a next life, i dont mind living through all the traumas i had as it cultivate me to who I am now.

Dear Jingru , I am glad you make it this far and Dear Michelle, fight on little one. Have Faith in the future , I look forward too seeing you again. 

Signing off,

Jingruus

Be The Voice , Unspoken.

 Be the one that Speak Up

The one that Speak of the Unspoken

The one that Turn your Weakness into Strength

Only then can we be strong

Only then can we Defeat

Our own Darkness then

Shine light to others . 

New Year Resolution or should I call it, Pressure.

 In a world of achievement and goals and success and fame.

It is as tho society deem everyone to have a New Year Resolution is necessary. 

Whenever the clock strike Twelve o'clock at the last day of the year. Friends , family and even acquaintance will always ask the first ever same question. 

"What's your new year resolution ?"

and the answers will alwyas varies but similar to the year before and so. 

"Lose weight", "Earn money", "Do this , do that" EVERYTHING is so materialized. 

physical.

Is that what humans are ? after all one day our physical body will detoriate to literally nothing but our mind and knowledge could be pass on to the next generation.

One day , I truly hope for all Humans to live in a world where they exist Happiness , Love and Light and no Greed, no darkness, no hate, no crime.

Maybe not in this generation but i hope in the generations to come, there exist this world.

This world.

Of True Happiness. 

True Love.

True Light.

True, Faith.

Signing off,

Jingru

2022 World

Grief and Depression.

It's me again with my first blogpost for the Year of 2022.

Always conflicted when I decided to do a blogpost as usually it's when I met some people who are against my Morales , encounter some unfortunate event or just something bad that happen will I ever blog.

General Public mention that there are Four Main Causes of Depression , PTSD & any other mental health illness of course over a certain period of Prolong duration.

There is Traumatic events , Grief ( Death of loved ones etc ), encountering an event that is against your Morale thus losing hope in Humanity / the world in general.

But I feel that Grief is the most powerful one as It will help to Numb the pain of all the other causes. Personally I have encountered all causes ( Traumas to Death of Loved Ones to Encountering event that is against my Morales ) but I always have the motivation to survive on and believe there is still Hope and Faith in Humanity instead of Greed and Money because of one thing ; Life & Death . 

I feel like Grief is the one thing that can help to Mask any of the pain caused by any other events . Not to sound pessimistic but in any way Grief and Death help me to shine another light in my life and kind of guide me to my calling ? 

Anyways I just felt like telling the World to be Happier and more Giving Rather than being Hypocrite and Greedy.

Signing Off,

Jingru.

Social Media & Life Competition

 Is life a competition with others ? 

No, it isnt

The only competitor is yourself , and the person/entity you should ever compare yourself to is your past self.

You are worth it and are doing well.

Show gratitude to everything you own now, your body, your mind, your living condition, everything.

To be alive is a blessing and you have the control to change anything in your life. You have the freedom and you have the ability.

Please believe in yourself and in what you can achieve.

Please Have Faith and Hope for a brighter future.

To who ever am reading this now, May the times you feel like suffocating and where you see only darkness and no light, may you remember that at anytime that you are not alone and light will be shine to  your life path in the near future and at each moment there is someone on earth and even up in heaven that is hoping that your life will get better and It will.

It will get better .

So don't give up.

Don't ever give up on your life. 

Regards

Jingru Quah. :)

shame

Being someone whom was slut-shamed in front of me & also behind my back.

It is truly an experience idw others to have. If it wasn't for my best friend , I would have left the world . But because of her company , I was able to stay calm and think of what had happened , what could had be done and what I could do now.

I forgive those that talk behind my backs and those that slut-shamed me because I hope that my forgiveness will give you all a higher probability to be a better person.

But I wouldn't want to keep you as a friend , but instead forever that person whom I hope to help. To let y'all to become a better mortal and making the world a better place for every living beings to live in.

I hope you all ascend to being a higher being instead of being a condescending being.

You are going to pass away anyway so why not do something good and leave a kind legacy behind rather than leaving just your bones and ashes. 😊

Virus

Gossips are like Virus.

Spread easily and mutate as it past thru each individual and Trust is like Vaccine while Empathy is the Anti-Body.

Even if one have Vaccine, the virus might still attack the body if its immune system doesn't have the anti-body within them. 

Alike to one having the gossip and without trust , the gossip will infiltrate the person mind but if the other party have empathy and understanding then the gossip(aka virus) won't be able to infiltrate the person.

Let's not just stop people from create gossips but instead cultivate people to have anti-body within them aka empathy & understanding . 

Let's create a safe space for humans to live in.

Acceptance

 Acceptance

When I was younger , I was hit with Grief from the lost of my Mum and the series of Traumatic events that followed.

Together with regular trigger of Fear of judgement, I was afraid of being not good enough , not pretty enough, not skinny enough, just not good Enough overall .

Growing up, I was constantly abuse not only mentally but also physically by a family member whom I no longer stay with .

I didn't knew this would cause me to develop Dissociative Identity Disorder later on when I grew up. 

Though out my adolescent, I further faced bullying for my appearance , betrayal from friends whom I thought were trustable and resulted in me having Anorexia & Anxiety when I was just 15. 

As I could no longer handle the tremendous stress but home with a combination of Trauma , I left home to live alone when I was turning 18 and I met friends whom I thought I could trust but they ended up breaking my heart when the trust of mine towards a colleague/friends turned to a physically traumatic event that would haunt my mind forever and that's when I developed an alter ego to help me numb my pain and fight off the negative thoughts I have and also turn to substance abuse as an escape plan.

While juggling school and work at the age of 20, I began to indulge in the world of night life and alcohol and I was just living each day young and reckless with the intent to just die as I felt worthless to the society physically and mentally.

Then covid came and it cleared my mind when I finally decided to seek help from local community after accepting me for whom I am . I decided to no longer be afraid of what I have been through and do what I want the most, to contribute back to society in whatever way I can.

And that is to create a platform to lessen treatment gap and make mental health treatment more assessable.

For years I have been in Denial and the fear of judgment but From now onwards till the Deathbed of mine will I Ever be afraid of anything . Not even Death itself, for if it comes, It comes. We only have one life , so just live it.

To accept your past and trauma is the solution to truly live your life with Hope and Faith.

HFaith

Are you lost ?

 Are we Lost ?

Do we really know what we want in Life or are we just succumbing to social norms.

Are we really in touch with our deepest emotion and feelings?

Or is there another personality and character hidden within us?

I guess we will never know since Human Brains made up of trillion of Neurons and at the end of the day we are just the work of universe and a ball of Protons and Neutrons.

Discrimination

 I don't discriminate nor do I harbor any hatred for any genre or type of people.

But I pity those that Discriminate and Judges people without any senses. Everyone have been through stuff in their life and been thru their ups & downs, for what do we, humans have to gossip between each other and have small talks about people whom they have little knowledge about or about people that don't even know them ? 

They say blood runs thicker than water but sometimes the only people you have to trust is yourself. Even relatives have small talk within them self and judges whatever you did whether or not it affect them. At times, the closest to you, are the ones that stand against you. Against what you have and against what you want to do.

Picked myself up with the help and comfort of friends that I have no blood relation to than those that I had. Blog and Journals are the one that got me through my darkest time. 

Trust yourself and none others.

But have Faith in Humanity & that you will be able to enact good change in people.

Think out of the box and go out of way to help those in need.

I feel that the people that contribute mostly back to the society are those who are unique, eccentric and been through their darkest point in their life.

Because by only being thru the darkest point in their life, will they truly understand the pain of Loss, Betrayal, Failure & Depression. 

I give my greatest applaud to those that emerge from their darkness and trying to be the beacons of light to the others.

I hope you all continue to do what you all are doing good at and be Truthful to yourself, forever and always.

Love,

Jingruus

International Self Care Day 2021

 

24th July 2021 is International Self Care Day & this year theme is < Make your self-care promise today > . 

Before you take care of other's need, remember to take care of yourself by recharging your mind and body. Take a rest every now and then to rejuvenate yourself for the bright future ahead of you.

Some of self care practices are:

- Finding your "Me-Time" , spend time alone and meditate your mind & soul.

- Start your day early by drinking a glass of warm water and eat a Hearty Breakfast and take a stroll down your nearest park. Absorb the sun and positive vibes.

- Take a break from your burden ; your work, household chore, what ever that's weighing on your shoulder.

- Lastly write down your thoughts/woes and don't keep the weight of the whole world to yourself. You are not alone in this.

Staying kind and lending a helping hand to others, but you have to take care of yourself first before taking care of others.

To be loved, you first have to love yourself.

Stay happy & lastly Have Faith & Hope.

Signing off

Jingru

HFaith

Took me Months & Years to finally see light in life. It has been a rough and dark journey from birth till now.

Been through lost of parent due to death, friends betrayal, scars from love, work politics and many more have left many scars on myself physically and mentally.

However, with the darkness came light and am thankful for what had happened to me in the past that make me who I am now.

Stronger , happier and am someone full of Hope and Faith.

Found my mission in life that is to shine light in people life that's still dim.

Don't lose hope and faith in life and keep on going. 

But in the meantime, help yourself before helping others ! 💜

Signing off

Jingru 

Dark Thoughts Kill

Its true. Dark Thoughts kill.

How could such non physical stuff kill one?

Depression usually disguise itself together with usage of alcohol and it cover your eyes to the truth. It mask your right & wrong instinct. Depression and alcohol alone is already potent by itself , when you combine them together , it became deadly.

It make you more emotional, vulnerable and anxious with each day. Depression usually feeds off on not just ur mind but in materialistic aspects such as addictive stuff like cigar or alcohol.

It makes you yearn toxicity more because they know together , they can kill you one day. One is more vulnerable to do things they didn't dare to do in fear of death or solely because the thing is unrespectfully dangerous.  But well with the fog of alcohol, your mind becomes more susceptible to your darker thoughts.often resulting in unfavorable endings when you wake up in your right mind.

But so why are people turning into those addiction knowing that it is harmful for them? I guess its the temporarily relief this potent stuff give to them . It mask their mental pain temporarily & allow them to feel happiness or so as they thought for just that moment. 

But little did they knew , its also during those vulnerable time are they more susceptible to self inflicted danger & death.

The world needs to not only focus on physical health.

We need to raise awareness to mental health too.

#MentalHealth

May was #MentalHealthMonth but its not just that month should we all bring attention to depression, anxiety & mental health.

@who has been trying to tell us for years based on the best scientific evidence tha if you're depressed or anxious , you're not weak or crazy, you're just a human being with unmet needs.

That's why one of the leading doctors @unitednations in their official statement for #WHD state that we need to talk less about chemical inbalances and more about in the way we live. & Just like how junk food has taken over our diets and made us physically sick, junk values have taken over our minds and made us mentally sick. For thousands of years, philosophers have said, if you think life is about money, and status and showing off, you're going to feel like crap.

But weirdly, hardy anyone had scientifically investigated this till a research by Prof Tim Kasser suggests several really important things. Firstly, the more you believe you can buy and display your way out of sadness, and into a good life, the more likely you are to become depressed and anxious. And secondly, as a society, we have become much more driven by these beliefs thru the mass medias.

We've been trained to look for happiness in all the wrong places, and just like junk food doesn't meet your nutritional needs and actually makes you feel terrible, junk values don't meet your psychological needs, and they take you away from a good life.

We feel this way for reasons, and they can be hard to see in the throes of depression -- I understand that really well from personal experience. But with the right help, we can understand these problems and we can fix these problems together. But to do that, the very first step is we have to stop insulting these signals by saying they're a sign of weakness, or madness or purely biological, except for a tiny number of people. We need to start listening to these signals, because they're telling us something we really need to hear. It's only when we truly listen to these signals, and we honor these signals and respect these signals, that we're going to begin to see the liberating, nourishing, deeper solutions.

I have seen too many people & friends that had suffered under the hand of depression and if anyone gonna stand up. I will do all my best to break the social stigma on mental wellbeing.

From this instant, I, Quah Jing Ru,shall pledge to advocate mental health awareness across all medias whenever I can and use my personal story to enlighten people to be as bright as they can.

#MentalHealth #positivevibes #SelfLove