Ephemeral

( noun ): anything short-lived, as an insect that lives only for a day in its winged form

(adjective) : lasting a very short period of time

Life as far as I have known is Ephermeral to me. Nothing last forever whether good or bad, positive or negative, everything is temporary and EPHERMERAL.

For life do I cherish, but death do I await, It's neither anything terrible nor brilliant, it's fairly just a way of living. 

For moments of sorrow wither like the petals of a rose and what remains is just the stalk that resembles the backbones of human, theoretically. Think upon things in moments of sadness, and you will see life in a different light.

Gratitude is like the water to the soil that help a rose to grow and bloom into its peak so when one has gratitude and appreciate everything that happened in their life, a beautiful blossom thou shall bloom into.

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(2nd part of this blog)
 

I will talk about Ephemeral in body size LOL ; Growing up with, I have been said by many of my pear-shaped body and tho I wasnt overweight or so, I had my own insecurities so when I found out the existence of Liposuction, I went to do it !

Ofcourse with every aesthetic procedure or surgery comes risk, and after much research, I had entrusted my thighs liposuction with 365MC hospital and wow the treatment and aftercare that they provide is world class IMO ! 

- Jingru, Oct 2023.

Marcus Aurelius — 'You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.'

 

One of my favourite youtube channel - to clear my mind and in times of doubt - is 

@ Philosophies for Life

And for todays' post , I will be sharing a Quote of the day I got from one of the video that I just watch from their channel. 

It is a quote by Marcus Aurelius —

 'You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.'

neurosis

Just an hour ago, I came upon a video titled "Why are so Many People Neurotic? – Carl Jung as Therapist" and I have never felt so called out in my opinions of life;

And I got to say, Carl Jung is one of my favourite  psychiatrist and psychoanalyst that have existed in the world and tho he had passed away centuries ago; His legacy and work carry on to influence people of the modern World.

“There are just as many people who become neurotic because they are merely normal, as there are people who are neurotic because they cannot become normal. That it should enter anyone’s head to educate them to normality is a nightmare for the former, because their deepest need is really to be able to lead “abnormal” lives.”  

Carl Jung, Problems of Modern Psychotherapy

 carl jung | Academy of Ideas

How many times do we view certain situations as weird, funny, abnormal and just quirky ? I believe you and me all have that one time where we deem a situation as weird and abnormal. Then who is there to deem what is normality and what is abnomality where each humans are unique in their own way and therefore have their own mindset and perception towards things.

"A neurosis is a psychological disorder defined by persistent and deep levels of anxiety and an overall fear of life. In addition to these cardinal symptoms, a neurotic illness may also include depression, guilt, phobias, obsessions and compulsions, excessive worry and rumination, insomnia, irritability, or anger. Carl Jung suggested that the neurotic’s fear of life was a result of “a disturbed or diminished process of adaptation” (Collected Works Volume 18) and “a morbid development of the whole of a personality” (Collected Works Volume 10). A neurotic, in other words, is an individual who fails to adapt to the demands of life, whose personality is stunted as a result, and whose existence, therefore, becomes a continual struggle with little, to no reprieve. "

-carl jung | Academy of Ideas

That being mention, then who in the world do not have a certain period where neurosis exist; For as long we have a brain and emotion; we will face a rollercoaster ride of emotion in our lifetime and of course periods of Down Downs.

"While a neurosis isn’t necessarily fatal, it slowly but surely saps the vitality out of life. A neurosis destroys our potential, places us in the constricting confines of an ever-shrinking comfort zone, fills us with guilt for a life not lived, wreaks havoc on relationships, inhibits the cultivation of skills, and damages our physical health due to the effects of chronic anxiety and depression on the body. Jung went as far as to call a neurosis “the agony of a human soul in all its vast complexity” (Carl Jung, The State of Psychotherapy Today).  "

-carl jung | Academy of Ideas

Now how many times did you have days where you felt sad, emotionless and where you just want to lock yourself out from the world and be alone in your own little space? Where everything else does not matter except the voices in your head?

And when this situation occur, blockage of reality tend to take place and this will cause further disturbance to our future life;

Thus, accepting our situation and then finding ways to help us get out of the situation is the way to go to get ourself out of the black pit hole and into light ;

Eventually, we will realise that life itself is precious and we are alreadys winners in our life as long as we were born.

From the day we took our first breath, we have actually won in the " Race to the Egg " to be fertilized in our mother's womb and be bought out to the world sucessfully.

I hope whoever that read this know that you are loved and are bought to this world for a reason and hope you live your life to the fullest and be who you are;

But first you have to accept what you have been through and turn experiences into knowledge and motivation to keep on moving in your life.

Regards

Jingruus

Sometimes

A moment of lost is felt, I will dwell back into my dark thoughts where my demons hide and sun never rises;

I will think of the small little things that I have taken for granted but is a blessing in reality; the ability to see, to breath, to taste, to type, to just be alive, itself is a blessings that I am thankful of.

An eternity is not possible but for awhile im glad.

For as long as I'm awake ; I will live life to the fullest and embrace whatever that comes along ;

"I realize that the good, the bad and the downright ugly events are all a part of who I've become."

" I was no longer reminded of the struggles I'd faced as a child. I was even embarrassed by some of them. I felt uncomfortable with who I was. There were times when I said and did things that didn't match the child I was deep down . I often felt hurt by the world - and wanted to hurt it back. 

Things are different now. I look back on my memories and embrace everything that happened ; there's a lesson to be learned from ever event.

I realize that the good , the bad and the downright ugly events are all a part of who I've become.

Although some of them may have been painful , they're a blessing - they've taught me so much . My experiences have left me with a drive to find a way out of misery and a path towards a better life. "

- [ Good Vibes, Good Life : How Self-Love is the key to unlocking your greatness] by Vex King

This book is exceptional and this portion of it is something I could relate to .

Stagnant ?

(Image of myself taken at @Iwanthy, an AI Photoshoot studio located in Singapore)

If there is anything I would give in the world,

is to give :

" Hope to the children and the ones that lost belief in themself. "

Because I have too, walk the path where darkness loom and self-hatred exist and with that cause an Never-ending loop of self-hurt and bad habits.

It is ofcourse impossible to change one's mindset overnight but a step at a time helps and the quote that really helped me was truly :

" A bad day isn't a bad life."

It is a simple short quote that have so much interpretation to it * and ofcourse it is easier to remember this then a longer quote haha *

A bad day isn't a bad life untill you made it permanent with the constant daily thoughts of it. But if one were to think that each day is a new day, then Changes could happen and with that Miracles happens too.

How do one then instill faith and belief in themself ? 

or rather

How do one then instill the mindset of :

" A bad day isn't a bad life." ?

Life is ever changing, everything comes and go but the ONLY ONE THINGS that will never change is that YOU have the ability to CONTROL what you do. Don't ever let anyone else control OR affect you because they HOLD NOTHING on you, they don't OWN YOU and YOU DONT OWE THEM anything & should anything be bestown to you as control by them it's on their KARMA will there be bestown to them.

So don't stoop to their level or let any outside factor affect you and you do you & will there then be faith and belief in oneself, in YOURSELF .

 

Do you

Do You Supress your own grief when you have one or do you let it out ?

Should we be train to help other individuals in time of grief or do we learn when the time comes ?

Through this hectic life, with so many things that are going through in our life , sometimes all we need is serenity and peace before solving any pertaining issue.

Health > Any other issues because without health there is nothing and Health includes Mental and Physical health.

Stay safe and be Kind.

-Love , Jingruus.

The way out of the dark.

One step at a time.

That what I was tell myself.

At times when I felt like giving up with all the weights on my shoulders and burden on my soul . Believe me I felt weak and vulnerable. Throughout the entire quarantine , I started to cleanse my mind and reflect on all that I have done and start to understand the fact that I can't go back to the past & undone my past mistake and instead realize that I should focus on the present and be a better version of myself each day as present is the phenomenal gift from your past.

Every morning you wake up, its a brand new day. A brand new day for you to do what's better for you. 

I started to unlock many of my potential which was hidden since I was so focus on my past and destroying my self conscious . Many of my past was wasted with no memories, and now all my present contains all good memories only.

There is still many evil and darkness lingering around. I'm not of my own darkness entirely and I don't think anyone is of much ease to get out of their darkness so easily but I'm doing so one step at a time.

Filtering out my life .

Living the way I know my future me will be thankful of.

Its never too late to start .

Everyone has their own pace in their own life story.

Everyone have a past & everyone have the ability to construct their future.

I believe & Have Faith.

Loves,

Jingru